Episode 196. How To Be Awesome At Approaching Conflict With Ashley Bello

Today’s podcast is about something some of us shy away from… and others of us charge towards… it’s all about conflict.

What to do when a conflict comes up.  How do you decide if it’s a battle worth picking?  How do you start the conversation?  How do you make sure it doesn’t end up in a disaster?

Today, Lindsay has her friend Ashley Bello on the podcast because she is incredible at dealing with conflict.  Like, the best at it.  She’s straightforward and direct and stands up for what’s right… but is also the coolest and sweetest girl ever. Lindsay wants to understand more about how she thinks about conflict and manages to address tricky situations head-on, but still comes out of it not being labeled a word that starts with a B.  

If you are someone that tends to avoid conflict, lean in here because we’re about to change all that.  We’re talking about how freeing and awesome it is to approach conflict in the healthiest way possible and how to stand up for yourself or people you love or just stand up for what’s right.

Lindsay has 2 strategies:
First, decide if it’s really worth it- or is it something you just need to let go of?
Next, decide clearly and rationally what you would like to get out of it.  What’s the best possible result at the end of it?  Then work backwards.

How do you decide if it’s a battle worth picking?  

How do you start the conversation?

How do you make sure it doesn’t end up in a disaster?

Ashely shares so many tips about how to take a beat before you respond to someone.

How to have real confidence so you can approach a situation in a strong way.

Never text or email to resolve a conflict.

Know that sometimes time solves many things and brings clarity.

How to deal with kid bullies and adult bullies.

And what Ashley wishes she knew when she was 20.

And LOTS of questions that came in from social media!

This podcast is a must listen to so you are ready the next time a conflict comes up.  CHEERS to approaching conflict in the healthiest way possible!