316. How To Be Awesome At Becoming Unoffendable

There is this incredible freedom that comes when you simply cannot be offended.

You have more inner peace, stronger relationships and just more joy in your days. 

In order to never be offended by something someone says, I think we need to first put them in one of two buckets, then unpack from there. 

They are either in your inner circle or not in your inner circle. 

If they are - then you love them unconditionally and you know they aren’t perfect, just like all of us, and we have bad days or bad moments or less than ideal reactions.  Or we let our own issues come out and onto someone else.  You know the bond you have and the person they are at, at their core, and you aren’t going to catastrophise it. 

And if they aren’t in your inner circle - it’s not worth your energy.  There’s no reason to put weight on whatever it is when they aren’t your do-anything-for-crew.  

And here’s the main thing - we know that 90% of judgment or criticism or rude comments comes from peoples own thoughts about themselves… not actually about us. And it’s through the lens they see the world through.  

It’s about getting to a point when your own opinion of yourself weights more heavily than anyone else.  It’s this deep confidence and ability to reframe the situation that is key. 

I think it is totally a super power if you can get to where you simply aren’t offended… and that’s why we’re podcasting about it today!